Good manners in public places. Rules of etiquette for girls in a public place and in relation to a guy

In society, there have long been rules of conduct that have been called etiquette. Many people are not familiar with it and often make mistakes. If some rules are already outdated and forgotten, then most still apply. I bring to your attention their part, about which many people forget.

1. You should never come to visit without warning. If the guests did not warn you about their arrival, you can not do the cleaning without a shadow of embarrassment, but walk around the house in a dressing gown, curlers, and even in a cosmetic mask. One British lady once said that when unplanned guests appeared, she always put on a hat, shoes, took an umbrella. If the guest who came was pleasant to her, she always exclaimed: “Oh, how lucky, I just came.” If the guest was not a joy to her, she said: "What a pity, it's time for me to leave."

2. It is considered bad manners to ask your guests to take off their shoes. They must be able to figure this out for themselves. If not, then the rules good manners not for them.

3. A very common mistake is drying an umbrella open at a party or office. This can be done exclusively at home and preferably without guests. To dry it at a party, you need to put it in a special stand or just hang it.

4. Many people often make another mistake - they put the bag on their chair or put it on their knees. It is unacceptable! If a small elegant handbag can be put directly on the table without a shadow of embarrassment, then a bulky bag or a bulky backpack should be hung on the back of a chair or placed on the floor. This rule applies in the absence of a special chair for the bag, which are very often found in restaurants. Briefcases are placed exclusively on the floor.

5. It is considered outright redneck to carry plastic bags as a bag. It is permissible to use them exclusively for delivering purchases home from the supermarket, but nothing more. The same applies to paper branded bags from a variety of boutiques.

6. A man should never carry a women's bag at all, and a women's coat can be picked up solely to bring it to the locker room, and then hang it up and vice versa.

7. Comfortable trousers and a sweater are at home, but they must have a decent appearance. Clothes such as a bathrobe or pajamas are reserved exclusively for the bedroom and bathroom.

8. One of the most common mistakes is made by parents. At the same time, as you allocate your own room to the child, and he settles in it, you must strictly accustom yourself to the fact that it is impossible to enter the room without knocking if he is in it. In this case, the child should do exactly the same before entering your bedroom.

9. It is permissible for a woman not to take off such items of clothing as a hat and gloves indoors, but in no case should she be in a hat and mittens.

10. The international protocol adopted total decorations no more than 13 items, which also include a variety of jewelry buttons. It is unacceptable to wear a ring over gloves, but wearing a bracelet is not at all forbidden. It is generally accepted in the world that the darker it is outside, the more expensive jewelry should be. It used to be thought that diamonds were considered an adornment exclusively for the evening and only for married ladies, but nowadays it is normal practice to wear diamonds in daytime days, as well as the appearance on a young girl of stud earrings with small diamonds of about 0.25 carats.

11. Many are not familiar with the rules of paying for orders in a restaurant. If you uttered the phrase “I invite you”, then pay, respectively, only to you. If a woman invited her business partner to a restaurant, then, accordingly, she should pay. There is another frequently used wording: "Let's go to a restaurant." This implies that everyone pays for himself. Only if a man offers a woman to pay the bill for her, she has the right to agree.

12. Rules dictate that men should always enter the elevator first, and the one who is closest to the door should exit first.

13. Few people know that in a car, the most prestigious place is considered to be behind the driver, which should be occupied by a woman, and a man sits next to her and when leaving the car, he must hold the door and give the woman a hand to help get out of the car. If a man is driving, then it is still preferable for a woman to take a seat right behind him. However, wherever a woman is sitting, a man should get out, open the door for her and help her get out of the car. Men often forget about this in our time, and women in business etiquette the motto of feminists is increasingly used, which says that in business there is no division into men and women.

14. It is considered indecent in society to say in public that you are on a diet. And it is absolutely unacceptable under such a pretext to refuse the offered dishes that a hospitable hostess can offer you. It is necessary to praise her culinary talents, but it is permissible not to eat anything. Oddly enough, but the same is true with alcohol, and you should not publicly declare that you do not drink. Why you shouldn't drink is purely your problem. You can ask for a dry white wine and just sip a little.

15. Small talk has its own rules and a list of topics that are considered bad form to discuss. You should not start a conversation in such a conversation about religion, money, health, and you should also forget about politics. It is considered extremely indecent to be interested in the price of a dress or any other accessory of someone else's outfit. If you are asked such a question, it is best to smile and answer that this is a gift, and then carefully move the conversation to another topic. If the interlocutor does not let up and continues to insist, politely say that you do not want to talk about it.

16. You need to address “you” not only to equal and older interlocutors, but also to every person who has reached the age of 12. It sounds very rude when some people allow themselves to be called “you” to waiters, drivers or doormen. In public, “you” is best addressed even to a well-known comrade. It’s better to use “you” only in private. An exception may be the case when you are peers or close friends. What to do if the interlocutor is not familiar with the rules of good manners and stubbornly continues to address you as “you”? First, it is best to politely ask if he is addressing you. If he did not understand your subtle hint, look around and ask in bewilderment if he meant you. In especially severe cases, you can shrug your shoulders neutrally and say, “Sorry, but we didn’t switch to “you” with you.”

At the mention of the word "etiquette" most people come to mind complex table settings using dozens of appliances, prim ladies and the coldness of official events of aristocratic houses. Meanwhile, etiquette is just a set of rules that regulate the behavior of people in a given situation. And even if you consider yourself a rebel, going against all the norms and rules of society, it never hurts to know the main rules of women's etiquette. This is especially important when traveling, because very often the rules of conduct in different countries differ significantly, and what is accepted in your homeland may surprise or even shock foreigners.

In that article, we will talk about modern European etiquette rules for women.

The etiquette of the modern girl

Everyday etiquette for girls includes the following basic rules:

1. Any communication begins with a greeting. Its purpose is to express the joy and pleasure of meeting. During the greeting, the degree of friendliness of the relationship should be taken into account. For distant acquaintances, a verbal greeting will be enough; a close friend or relative can be kissed on the cheek or lightly hugged. However, a balance should be maintained between a sluggish and overly boisterous greeting. Remember that those with whom you greet should hear you, and not everyone around you within a radius of several meters. Avoid loud exclamations, violent hugs and noisy long kisses.
2. In rainy weather, the guy holds an umbrella over the girl (if he is taller or the same height as her). With a significant difference in height, each carries his own umbrella. When entering a room, remember to protect others from water dripping from your umbrella. To do this, use a cover or leave an umbrella in a special stand at the entrance.
3. Eating on the street, especially while walking, is indecent. Of course, no one will forbid you to eat ice cream in the park on a bench, but you should not enter public transport, shop or museum with bitten hamburger or sandwich.
4. You must arrive exactly at the appointed time. Contrary to popular belief, guests should not be late. If you fail to arrive at the appointed time, be sure to notify the hosts about this. In the event that you need to leave before other guests, do not draw too much attention to yourself. Leave quietly, without fuss, and of course, do not forget to say goodbye to the hosts and thank them for the welcome.
5. Control your movements. Too active gesticulation not only interferes with others, but also does not look too beautiful.

Etiquette in a restaurant for a girl

If you go to a restaurant with a gentleman, then, according to the rules, the guy enters the room first. Taking the menu, he must give it to the girl, inviting her to choose first. Then he takes the menu himself, makes his choice and orders dishes for both.

You should not start eating before the order is brought to everyone present. The only exceptions are cases when other people themselves will offer you to start the meal without waiting for them.

At the end of the meal, the cutlery is placed on the plate in parallel. If they pause while eating, the devices should be placed crosswise.

While eating, you should not slurp, sniff food noisily or defiantly pick at it. Eating with a knife or, sitting at the table, picking out food particles stuck in the teeth are the most gross possible violations of etiquette.

If you accidentally dropped, spilled or spilled something - do not panic and do not rush headlong to correct your oversight. Spilled liquid should be wiped only with a napkin, and crumbled crumbs should not be brushed onto the floor.

Business etiquette for women

clothing etiquette for business women provides for the observance of the classic official style in appearance. An ideal clothing option would be a business suit (jacket and trousers or skirt) in restrained tones. At the same time, the absolute coincidence of the “top” and “bottom” of the suit is not necessary - you have the right to combine, for example, a sand jacket and a blue skirt.

The main requirement for any clothing is cleanliness and neatness. Make sure that your suit is always washed and ironed, there are no stains or holes on it. Similarly, your hair and makeup should be neat. Follow your appearance It means showing respect for others. But you should not clean up (pull up your stockings, clean your shoes, straighten your hair, powder your nose, tint your lips or wipe off leaking mascara) in public. It is better to do this at home or in the "ladies' room".

As you can see, modern etiquette for women does not provide for overly complex rules or exhausting duties. It is enough just to be friendly, to behave with restraint, but not constrained, and to treat others with respect.

In most cases, this is due to social origin. In wealthy families, girls are sent to a ballet school, where they are taught to stand straight and move gracefully. And in addition to dancing lessons, they go to special schools where they teach this, just like at home, everything is simply saturated with the spirit of sophistication of behavior in society. Most often, of course, this is typical for royal families, of which there are not so many left in the world today, or for upper-class families belonging to the elite of society. In Ukraine, unfortunately, due to certain historical events, there are practically no such families for a long time, as well as special requirements for behavior in high society, and, consequently, specialized educational institutions.

Continuing lessons good manners and correct behavior in society, I would like to pay attention to how we walk, stand and sit, and teach how to do it correctly and elegantly. There is nothing worse than a pretty girl who only uses her appearance, completely unable to behave properly. Sometimes it becomes a pity for those women who spend a lot of time and money on care in order to achieve the perfect hairstyle, manicure and makeup, who are completely lost behind their total inability to behave and behave with dignity.

Correctly stand

• Do not shift from foot to foot, even if your legs hurt or ache
• The legs should be perpendicular to the floor. Take small steps if this somehow helps to ease the load on the legs. You can also become in the third position by placing one foot slightly in front of the other
• Don't lean against the wall. Stand straight on two legs, or find yourself a chair

• Don't talk or laugh too loudly and avoid overly sweeping gestures. Hands, and especially elbows, should always be close to the body. Do not cross your arms over your chest or place them on your hips.
• If your legs really hurt and you can no longer stand, never complain or make a face. No one should know about your suffering. An exception can only be made for best friend, or loved one but very quiet.

• Don't forget to keep your chin up.
• Try to walk straight. Imagine a straight line on the floor and try to put your foot as close to it as possible. Don't try to walk like a supermodel. This is not the effect you want.

• Don't go too fast, as if you're in a hurry. Don't move your legs. This will make you look tired and exhausted.
• Do not put a strong emphasis on the heel. Firstly, you become like a soldier, and secondly, the heel knocks too loudly, which annoys others.
• Do not exaggerate the swaying of the hips or the movement of the buttocks. It's unnatural and looks cheap.
• Always carry a bag or clutch with you to keep your hands busy. So you look more elegant than when your arms just dangle back and forth.

• Don't put your hands in your pockets. Pockets for men only!

• Standing in front of a chair or chair (or other object that you can sit on), lean forward slightly and bend your knees.
• Remember to keep your back straight. Then slowly lower your buttocks onto the seat, as close to the back as possible. If the seat is too far away and you need to move it closer to your knees, do so while you slowly lower yourself. Never pull up a chair after you sit on it. This creates unnecessary noise and looks disgusting. Never hunch over when sitting, no matter how comfortable the seat is.
• Keep your feet together. You can tilt them slightly to the side, or cross your ankles. In some cases, or in certain seats, such as the high stool behind the bar, it is better to cross your knees. This looks more feminine. Just remember that when you cross your legs, you must do it as carefully as possible and keep them as close as possible. closer friend to friend. (Forget about Sharon Stone - not now...)
• When you get up from a place, do it also slowly, keeping your back as straight as possible.

In order to master these simple rules and apply them in society without the slightest feeling of embarrassment or inconvenience, it is best to practice at home in front of a mirror with different chairs and different outfits.